Let's All Pretend!
I was having a conversations with a married friend of mine when she giggled and said "I'm going to say something that is going to sound crazy...but you wouldn't believe it...the minute you get engaged or end up about to get married...be prepared for good looking men to hit on you!"....I was pretty shocked about that statement and asked her to continue..."It's true she said...ask any married woman and she'll tell you...for some reason...good looking men start showing up everywhere..and worse...they'll approach you...and I mean complete strangers! This would never have happened to you when you are single...and you'll find yourself appreciating all the attention but wondering where were they when you were actually looking for them!"...
After that statement...it got me thinking..what was the reason...was it because of the confidence of the engaged women or soon to be married women the cause of those men suddenly finding the ladies attractive and therefore approaching them (meaning that men no longer smell women's fear or desperation in finding the right one)...OR....was it because the women who were now considered untouchable and unavailable, the reason that good looking men suddenly wanted them??" (going back to the old analysis that men are attracted to women that are a challenge).
I simply couldn't get it off my mind off...so if there are any therapists out there who may have the answer to this...please do tell...I would deeply appreciate it...afterall...we could all pretend to be engaged and see what happens! Don't you think?!
posted by MissCosmoKuwait @ 2:46 AM
19 Comments:
You know I always believe that once the woman gets engaged or end up about to get married, she suddenly finds other men hot and attractive, even if they weren't, but the idea of her ending up with ONE man,
makes her want other men to be hitting on her and even approaching her..
She feels that she still wants to be desirable!
So desperate =/
I'm all for you & friends acting like you're engaged and see what happens ;) Place a hidden camera somewhere so we can watch along.
Very simple, have you ever heard of the saying "Confidence glows" thats one thing when a women is ready to get married she feels stronger and beautiful, add to that at that phase she wont care to look at other men, and trust me that is a big attraction to men, i tried it :P
tell her she ain't seen nothing yet
it's the young mothers where it's all at
7tenths...too many ORs but all justified reasons that may be possible...but I'm kinda thinking it's more than that...but here goes:
(1) are you saying that we don't "normally" take care of ourselves?? I beg to differ daaahling..:)
(2) You think?? oh my God..what a jerk!!! I'm predicted that kind of marriage won't last..:)
(3) Now that...it's probably true...but I've past by the gahwa's before and stared at the wedding dresses in earnest and didn't see one good looking guy in sight...where the hell where you on that day man??...:)
Hahahaha i loved the comments here, and you bring up an important point cosmo dear. Madry, i feel like its a number of factors that lead to this. Hmmmm. I agree with The Grenadine, it is energy related, with Shopa, Lialy & NuNu & Judy.
I think im going to start 'pretending'.
I think confidence plays a role in people's attitude towards others.
the gredadine...I really think you've got something there...especially the mentioning of the job issue...it's happened to me before...I get one great offer and all of a sudden...I get two or three others that never showed up before...just to make life more complicated!!! Decisions...decisions!! Very interesting perspective...and you're right...who needs a therapist!..:)
shopa...LOL!!! Spoken like the real shopaholic I know..."blame it on the rain!"..:)
laialy...that's awful..I hope not!!! but if it's true..it might explain the reason so many people have affairs!!!
NuNu...so you think it's us not them???...hhmmm...I don't know...most of the married women that I've spoken to are really into their husbands and love them so I wouldn't think so...but then again..we never know!
toomz...always the conspiracy...LOL!!!....I've checked on line and they have pens with hidden cameras...should I order them then??..:)
Judy...exactly...I do believe you're right...but hold on..what do you mean you've tried it??? How?? Did you start a rumour that you're engaged or did you just tell yourself that today I'm gonna play engaged???...do tell girl...you got me intrigued!
temetwir....LOL!!!...Sij mafee mithlik...:)...you really cracked me up and I loved the comment..I have one pregnant sister who will be very flattered to hear that!..:)
DR...LOl...glad you liked the comments dear...so how about this...we tell ourselves that we're engaged this Friday and then head to to IKEA (based on Krispy's recommendation that hot guys go there) and see what happens...huuuh?? eshrayich 7ajiya...but wait??...are we supposed to wear engagement rings when we pretend?? ok...let's go shopping for those first and then head to IKEA...:)
3baid...definately!! but then again as long as the confidence doesn't come out as being snobbish or arrogant...I think those two attributes are totally turn offs for me...but if men find them attractive...sij ma 3enduhum salfa...don't you think?
well there was a rumer that i was engaged, but i did that befor the rumer got out.
I just left the house one day with the feeling of being a wife to no one and had the confidence, and you can't imagin how many guys hit on me even in the time i was with my family.
And honestly i saw the reflection of this pretending on my face, it was glowing and very beautiful.
So now i pretend i'm a widowed to stay away from any hitting, and i get hits from old grandpa's :)
SO DEAR...
HURRY ON AND GET MARRIED!!!
Ok I should've said that not all women! ;P
judy...LOL! Loved the part about the widow!!! I'd say stick to just pretending to be engaged without specifying if he's alive or dead..we wouldn't want you attracting yananwa ba3ad!!..:)
Chai7aleeb...hather 3amee...bass an6er el dibla!..:)
NuNU....don't worry...I know that's what you meant babe!..:)
i would say that its her perceiving men to be more attractive than they actually are because she's gonna be tied down to one guy for the rest of her life, so she starts thinking about what she might be missing...
madry... there's also the confidence thing that was mentioned. A woman who is getting married tends to glow (especially if its a love match) and guys are attracted by that glow...
or maybe they smell the other guy on her and like a challenge! :P
ufffff mita nitzawaj!!?? :/
Agooooooooool......what happened to ur story?!
Did u really think we would forget?
no enough motivation for me to discuss this topic
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